First some clarification on my part on behalf of the two guys you were out with . Really for us it comes down to this. We both work in an environment where we’re always on, and we’re dealing with a lot of people who don’t make it easy to do our jobs. So outside of the place where we spend one to two thirds of our life we need some sort of fun in our lives.

Sex for most people ends up being a source of contentment and fun. The less you get, the more you want if you have the knowledge of how good it could be. In our cases I think we were trying to communicate that if there was an option to have sex be more a part of our lives, we would definitely adjust our way of life to accommodate. It’s not because SEX is the only or main thing on our minds, its rather because with the way that we live life right now, and the amount of stress that seems to be coming at us from every which way, sex is an athletic way for Men to work out aggression and feel good while doing it. That and personally I enjoy making my partner feel on top of the world as much as possible. If it ends up that our partners might be available for the act, then by all means I’d be the first to adjust my schedule to accommodate.

The Male brain is all about utility. More specifically what will get us to our goal the quickest. Male animals are programmed to “pollinate” as many flowers as possible to keep the blood line going. For some, they don’t care how, when or where the subject comes up, but if there is an opportunity, they’re programmed to take it. There are some of us men who really don’t have the time to get into it, because we’re too concerned with where the next $$ is going to come from. Finally there are some of us who actually like the art of Romance, and take the time to conduct appropriate research to make sure that we cross all the “t”s and dot all the “i”s where that is concerned. I understand what you said about us not wanting to be all that romantic, but there’s another dynamic where that comes in as well. It’s called the expectant woman.

The expectant woman is one that expects her man to be the one in shining armor who can never do anything wrong. Fine… mayhaps I’m exaggerating a little. But one who expects her man to be romantic will be sadly disappointed. I’ve talked to many men who have a sixth sense and automatic reaction for when something like that is taking place. Personally, I have like doing things that make others smile, but I will do it less and less when I know that my actions have become expected. Why? I’m not so sure. I like the element of surprise. I like the look on the female face when we as males have done something to make the female feel special. Personally I get no better feeling when I know that I have done good with anyone that I am doing something for.

Ok So now that I’ve said that much let me get to the core… The internet is a bad benchmark for how men work. The net has always been a source for good porn when ever we men and sometimes women need it. Everything marketed to us these days has an element of sex in it. For most men, the internet is a source of information and gratification. The fact that you’re looking to have a conversation with a man online is no help to this. Unless you’re filling his mind with useful information that can benefit him or his bottom line, then you fall into the second category of gratification. More specifically, they like to hear themselves be praised, or they like the cat and mouse games where they come out on top. I know… unfortunate, but this is what the information highway has done for men. Given them the opportunity to get anything they want within seconds. Social conversations over the net typically break down in the same fashion. Unless you’re talking about something that is of academics, then you’re going to be talking about sex, sports, music, politics or any other topic that can be debated and won. Hell… I was just thinking that regardless of the web or real life, isn’t it all pretty much the same?

LOL we’re all apes aren’t we?

Hope this clears it all up a little.