Post # 30

So I decided that I was going to give online dating another go.  Ask me why as I have had such great luck on them already, but hey, you never know.

So I logged back in to all the typical ones, Lavalife, Singlesnet, Plentyoffish (POF), eHarmony, and I even decided to join BBW for the hell of it.

Knowing full well that the pattern I have noticed over the last year would probably continue I still thought ‘hey, why not?’  I mean it is so hard to meet people nowadays, with the internet being the major source of connection between people so it seems.  Plus the last place I really want to pick up is at a bar or a club because I know what that looks like.

Rejection is a hard thing to swallow regardless of where or how it is done.  I mean, I feel that I am a pretty attractive woman and I have quite a few qualities that I believe are desirable.  However, I know that not everyone is going to look at me and think this way, nor read my profiles and automatically feel that I have everything they want or need.  But still, even though the interaction is not face-to-face, when you see or read something you like and attempt to make a connection only to find that they don’t feel or think the same way still bites at you a bit.  I mean I think I would prefer the rejection in writing rather than a face to face interaction, at least behind my computer I don’t need to hide my feelings but I still feel nonetheless.

But I guess what it comes down to is that online daters are still looking for something, whatever it may be.  One night stands, an affair, a friendship, dating, seeing who’s out there, relationship, marriage, whatever, people that are on there want to see who they may or may not click with. Even though everything is on computer, the one trait that I feel is still key to whether or not a connection is made/initiated comes down to physical attractiveness.  I mean I can absolutely say with certainty that even I don’t message anyone who doesn’t have a picture.  Is this vain of me?  I don’t think so.  I do believe that attraction is important and that looks are vital to any relationship providing that both people feel attracted to their partner.  It’s important to know what the person looks like.  Even if they have the best personality in the world and they make you feel on top of the world when ever you are with them, if you are not physically attracted to them, it is difficult to get to the next stage of intimacy. Don’t get me wrong, I mean it is not impossible for someone to fall in love with someone who they may have not been overly attracted to in the first place.  I know it happens.  But in my experience, for the relationship to encapsule the fullness of what it can be, mutual physical attraction at the beginning I think needs to be achieved.

However, I didn’t come on here to post about that.  I came on here because I have someone new in my life that I would like to share with you….yes I have found someone….and he is…..what I have to say at this point….what I want and what I have been searching for….