Post #31

Helllloooooooo, and where have you been?  Who me? Yes you! Well, what can I say…it truly has been a long time since I posted and there is absolutely no excuse from my laziness.

The last post I wrote which I reviewed only yesterday made me laugh because at the end I started mentioning a new guy in my life…???…ummmm, who was that now?  Obviously not who I thought he was going to be.  If I remember correctly, he was in and out of my life so fast it didn’t feel like anything at all.  So, that won’t take up too much of my thoughts.

But, I can say with more certainty that there is a new beau in my life and has been for about 8 months now.  Now this is a bit of an interesting/uncommon story, I think anyway, and by other people’s comments as I tell them about our relationship, my assessment is not that far off…so let me begin…

As mentioned before I joined every and all internet dating sites (so it seemed), I think I went broke for a bit and I don’t really know what the purpose of it was….more profiles out there, more chances of  finding someone perhaps???  Who really knows for sure, but anyways, one of the sites I joined was Yahoo! Personals around the beginning of Feb ‘09.

The first contact was made by him, who I will name as GB, on Feb 14th (St. Valentine’s Day – of all days).  He was very short in introduction but definitely made it intriguing for me because he mentioned the whole Happy V Day which I found very charming…what a suck I am (lol).  Of course, it didn’t  help that the pictures that accompanied his profile made him appear very handsome and that was helpful too.  So, I read his message and closed the site down.

I don’t think I waited too long to respond because I sure didn’t want this one to ‘get away’, so I responded to his message and that began our communication.

Now noted in previous postings, I discuss sexual comments/questions/innuendos that are posed to me during online conversations.  GB was nothing like that and it sort of freaked me out…weird? I know! He was quite the gentleman and I was loving it, I thought that perhaps “here was one of the good ones.”  However I was in the back of my mind waiting for the ball to drop and he would turn into the usual guy I would chat with.  So we continued emailing each other back and forth on yahoo personals.  What also made GB at this point different from other guys both virtual and in person, is that he actually asked me questions about myself and my life.  What? What’s this? Can this be true? Yes, and it was so exhilarating that I anxiously waited for  every email from him like a kid waiting for the candy shop to open…lol.

It got to the point that each email when printed out was 4 – 5 pages long usually and contained lots of information about each of us and answering and asking questions of the other. It was great.  But I started thinking that perhaps it was time that we start emailing each other from our own private email addresses…so I thought I would bring up this thought…

The first time I mentioned it, GB wrote back asking if we could continue emailing each other within yahoo for a while.  I had no problem with this but wondered why he didn’t want to move outside of the site, however I didn’t say anything and we continued as normal.  I think I brought it up a little while later and again he responded the same.  I began thinking that something was wrong with this guy as most people I know and have chatted with want to email from private addresses almost right away.  I mean when I get messages from some people, they ask me to add them to MSN or email them at their home address without even chatting with me first.   But, I enjoyed emailing GB so I didn’t push the issue.  Some time went by and I wanted to bring up the idea again, so I posed it to him once more.  This time, he accepted the offer and we exchanged emails.  Looking back on it now, I think we communicated on yahoo for over three months.

So we moved to private emails…wow, how exciting!!! This experience allowed me to see more of the gentlemen in GB as he went on yahoo, highlighted all of our communication for the last three months and emailed it to me so that I would always have a copy of our chats….how sweet!!!  This sweetness continued as every month on the 14th, he would write a “Happy Anniversary” message letting me know he remembered when he first contacted me.  Now, I don’t know how many men out there remember anniversaries but GB has NEVER forgot one. This impresses me as it is not something that most men wire into their brains, and in some cases there are some women who don’t remember either so it can go both ways.  But the fact that he remembers and acknowledges it makes me feel special.  Thanks for that GB

The communication continued and every email was better than the last one.  So we have now communicated via email both on yahoo and privately for about 5 months and we still have not talked about meeting in person.  This was very weird.  Again, I was asked on numerous occasions to meet up with guys I had just been talking to…literally like I only said hello and they wanted to meet.  Here, I find myself very intrigued by GB and very curious to know what he looks like in person (in case he was lying with the pictures..lol)  and if there was going to be physical chemistry, because believe me there was definitely psychological chemistry going on…lol. So I gave him my phone number on a whim, hoping he would call.  Nope, he emailed me saying he appreciated it, but would prefer to continue emailing before we get to the phone.  Hrmmmm, now this is weird. Communicating for 6 months and all we have done is email, is there something wrong with this?  All my friends that I have told this story to believe it is weird, however, I say to him that it’s no problem and he can let me know when he is ready for that next step.  I know, I have WAY TOO MUCH PATIENCE!!!!! But, in my heart, I knew what we had thus far was a good thing, so why screw it up? However, in my mind I was wondering if GB had a plan.  A plan where he takes his time in getting to know someone, which he pointed out many times in his emails, but he was coming across as if he had steps in mind of how to go about communicating with someone.  I mean, we first started talking on yahoo and did so for quite a few months, then we moved into private emails and did this for a few months, than it has only been recently that I was able to convince him (although he might tell this part a little differently than me) to start talking to me on the phone….and YES, WE STILL HAVE NOT MEET YET!!!! But, that’s okay, it’s a process…Although according to GB it was never planned like that.  However, let me back up a bit.

So, we started talking on the phone around the end of Aug.  Keep in mind that we started talking in Feb. I was very nervous when we agreed to do this as I was for sure thinking that he was going to have a very girly voice or a voice I just was not going to like (I like a deep voice, manly voice if you will – shallow I know).  I also thought he was probably thinking about what my voice was going to sound like and I was hoping it was going to be pleasant to him.  So, we picked a date and time for him to call me…Aug 26th @ 6 pm. I sat on my couch continuously looking at my clock.

Because I am such a girl, I had already programmed his name and number into my cell phone so when he called I would know it was him.  So, 6:10 rolls around and I’m thinking, ummmmm, ok, so do you not want to talk to me now?  First thought was not a good one since I am very punctual with most things.  Not looking good for GB already.  6:11 pm, my phone rang and up showed his name.  I was nervous.  What happens if this doesn’t go well?  What do I say? So, the girl in me attempts to make her voice sound all sexy and says “Hello?”, he asks for me and I let him know that it was me on the phone.  And just by him asking for me and saying ‘good evening’, I LOVED HIS VOICE!!!  YEAAAAA!

Will post more at a later time, sorry.