Post #11

or maybe I am naive, or maybe I project what was instilled in me as I was growing up. Any way I look at it I am still in bewilderment about this.

As aforementioned in a previous post I ranted about online guys constantly being driven by sexual thoughts and openly asking me provocative questions or stating sexual comments. I again found myself in a similar conversation today and now I am really wondering if it is perhaps me that needs to change my belief and value system.

Growing up my mom spoke pretty negatively about sex and sexual intercourse and always made petting and cuddling the thing that she enjoyed most. As children we absorb what our parents teach us and in some ways we take these messages and later incorporate them into what we experience as we get older. Sex was never something that my family openly talked about and perhaps is the reason for my heightened curiousity as a young teen. I was very secretive with my sex life because I felt that if my mom found out she would be very disappointed and this thought would have shattered me. I was also taught as a young girl getting into the so-called ‘dating’ scene that guys for the most part are only out to have sex with me. This lovely comment was said to me by my dad numerous times and for some weird reason I always had an image come to mind of him trying to sleep with and seduce my mom….gross! lol

Post #9…

OK…this is the last straw. I give up!! I am so tired of the sexual comments guys make. Every time I turn around a male is either asking a question about sex or is making a comment towards me regarding sex. This is so fucking ridiculous, but then again should I honestly be surprised? No. Trying to meet someone is very difficult and the last thing I think about when meeting new people is whether or not I want to or am going to have sex with them or give them ‘head’. Now I understand that for the male species sex is pretty much the only thing they think about, but come on, at least ask me my name first.

Now, I’m jumping ahead a little bit so I should explain myself…