Post #31

Helllloooooooo, and where have you been?  Who me? Yes you! Well, what can I say…it truly has been a long time since I posted and there is absolutely no excuse from my laziness.

The last post I wrote which I reviewed only yesterday made me laugh because at the end I started mentioning a new guy in my life…???…ummmm, who was that now?  Obviously not who I thought he was going to be.  If I remember correctly, he was in and out of my life so fast it didn’t feel like anything at all.  So, that won’t take up too much of my thoughts.

But, I can say with more certainty that there is a new beau in my life and has been for about 8 months now.  Now this is a bit of an interesting/uncommon story, I think anyway, and by other people’s comments as I tell them about our relationship, my assessment is not that far off…so let me begin…

Post # 30

So I decided that I was going to give online dating another go.  Ask me why as I have had such great luck on them already, but hey, you never know.

So I logged back in to all the typical ones, Lavalife, Singlesnet, Plentyoffish (POF), eHarmony, and I even decided to join BBW for the hell of it.

Knowing full well that the pattern I have noticed over the last year would probably continue I still thought ‘hey, why not?’  I mean it is so hard to meet people nowadays, with the internet being the major source of connection between people so it seems.  Plus the last place I really want to pick up is at a bar or a club because I know what that looks like.

Post #19 (2 of 2)

Continued from another post..please read Hell Date (1 of 2) before proceeding…

So where was I…oh yes…

Dinner…

Once out of Long & McQuade we get into my car again. I picked up my cell phone that I had forgotten and noticed that I had a missed text message. I open my phone to see who it was and Jeff remarks “Who is that? Your boyfriend?” I reply with a smart “Ummmm, No!” and begin typing a message back. As I am typing this guy next to me grabs my phone and begins reading my message and says “Are you talking about me?” I take my phone back, close it without finishing my message and look at him with dumbfounded eyes and reply “No”. I take note of the behaviour one more time and I have now completing shut off the idea that I would ever see this guy again. But, I decide to continue the date. Why? No idea.

I reverse out of the parking spot and he asks if I want to go get something to eat. I said that would be nice and he asks what I want to eat. I mention that I saw an East Side Mario’s and he quickly responds that he was not planning on spending that much on dinner. I quickly rebuttal that and say that I didn’t expect for him to pay for me. He says that he feels like a sub, which I say that I don’t feel like that. I said I am going to drive until we can agree on something. I begin to drive in a direction I am not sure about as I have never been in this area before and I tell him this. He motions for me to go right and I do.

Post #15 (1 of 2)

LOL…yes you read the title right! I am going to write in this post about the ‘hell date’ that I went on in March. I have been meaning to write about this for quite some time but like I mentioned in a previous post, I had school and my exam which of course takes precedence over my postings. But now with school done, I can now take the time and tell you exactly what happened in my own words.

How it began…

So like numerous posts before this one I had mentioned my recent activity on single dating websites. Well, plenty of fish was the site I was frequenting most at this time and I received a message from a guy by the name of Jeff. I checked out his profile and <nodding> he was cute and had some characteristics that I am interested in. So I messaged him back. We sent messages back and forth for a day or so and then he added me to his MSN list of contacts. We talked for about another day or so and I noticed that the majority of the conversations were one sided (my side of course) and he really wasn’t giving me much to go with so we ended up not communicating much after the second day, so I deleted him from my MSN account. That ended that wonderful online love affair….lol…NOT!

Anyways, on March 15th I had just got home from being out with my mom and I was going to do some school work. I logged on to MSN and almost instantly I get a message and I have no clue who this person is. So I asked and he says that it is Jeff and that we had spoken a while ago from POF (plenty of fish). I remembered him but was not going to really converse with him as I thought how wonderful our previous conversations had been, but said ‘hello’ back to him anyways. He asked what I was doing and so I told him my plans. He sounded a little disappointed with my response and asked if I would like to get together and go for a nature walk and grab a coffee. I thought about it and replied that I don’t drink coffee. He responded and asked if I wanted to get together. I looked outside and it was gorgeous out and a nature walk would be nice. I also remembered him being cute so I thought well why not, my social life is more important than school right now….lol.

So I said ok. He replied back saying that he believes that the park close to his house closes at 5 pm so if we were going to go we should get ready. It was now coming on 2:30 pm. I told him I would need about an hour to get ready. He asked if I could come get him in Thornhill and then we can go to the park. I live in Mississauga, 30 minutes away from Thornhill. I of course thought, okay, no problem. I like to drive anyways.

The Phone Call…

Post #11

or maybe I am naive, or maybe I project what was instilled in me as I was growing up. Any way I look at it I am still in bewilderment about this.

As aforementioned in a previous post I ranted about online guys constantly being driven by sexual thoughts and openly asking me provocative questions or stating sexual comments. I again found myself in a similar conversation today and now I am really wondering if it is perhaps me that needs to change my belief and value system.

Growing up my mom spoke pretty negatively about sex and sexual intercourse and always made petting and cuddling the thing that she enjoyed most. As children we absorb what our parents teach us and in some ways we take these messages and later incorporate them into what we experience as we get older. Sex was never something that my family openly talked about and perhaps is the reason for my heightened curiousity as a young teen. I was very secretive with my sex life because I felt that if my mom found out she would be very disappointed and this thought would have shattered me. I was also taught as a young girl getting into the so-called ‘dating’ scene that guys for the most part are only out to have sex with me. This lovely comment was said to me by my dad numerous times and for some weird reason I always had an image come to mind of him trying to sleep with and seduce my mom….gross! lol

Post #9…

OK…this is the last straw. I give up!! I am so tired of the sexual comments guys make. Every time I turn around a male is either asking a question about sex or is making a comment towards me regarding sex. This is so fucking ridiculous, but then again should I honestly be surprised? No. Trying to meet someone is very difficult and the last thing I think about when meeting new people is whether or not I want to or am going to have sex with them or give them ‘head’. Now I understand that for the male species sex is pretty much the only thing they think about, but come on, at least ask me my name first.

Now, I’m jumping ahead a little bit so I should explain myself…